Parting Ways...

Parvaa Nishant cha email pahila... about last day at Infosys Bangalore. He left for Infosys Pune. One more parting of ways... Now it feels like I am habituated to this ritual because i did not feel too bad that after working together for two years and being good friends, the relation entered a phase where we don’t even know when next we will see each other.

Hyaa prakaracha pahila anubhav shala sodatana aala. Tyanantar tharavik kalane tyaachi punaravrutti hot rahili. Diploma..L&t....Degree... and now this latest venture Infy... Pratyek tappyaavar naveen mitra milale. Kahi kaal aamhi ekatra rahilo mag punhaa raste vegvegale zale. Kadhi me marga badalala tar kadhi etarani.

Pan yacha artha asa nahi ki maitree sampali. Tithe maitreeche ek nave parva suru zale. Pratyaaksha bhet sodali tar baki sarv tasech rahile. And this is what matters to me.

What is friendship? In my opinion at a very primitive level if we see... friendship is nothing but an agreement about at least not to harm each other in any way... if not support. The ones who support each other are the ones we call close friends.

This reminds me of Bush’s sentence... “For us... or Against us” this sentence put people on border in the “against” party by saying if u r not for us, u r against us. But friendship says “against us... or for us” which puts the people on border into “for us” because of “at least not to harm” fundaa.

Most of the times we all are forced together by circumstances.... some common task or whatever. And during the course we find that we can relate to some people more than others. the most imp binding factor initially is the mutual common goals or interests.

But what happens when those common interests are over? Pure materialistic point of view, there is practically no reason for the friendship to continue. And “at least not to harm” type of relationships end here. A few remain... they are the ones of “support” kind.... the ones we generally find ourselves emotionally closer to.

Once friendship aquires this new dimention, we remain friends because we choose to remain as friends of each other. Kuthalehi bandhan asnate. Sagala raji khushi cha mamala asato. Aapan samorchyaala jase asel tase sweekarto.

Aapan ek mekaancha aadar karaayla shikato. Because we become fully aware that we practically we do not need each other. Everyone is independent. So we learn to recognize each others personal freedom. And there is a very big change in behavior with each other.
Even when we give advice... sometimes we say “mala ase vatate.... bagh tula jase thik vatel tyaapramane kar” this may look a common sentence... but it demonstrates a full recognition and respect for other person’s personal freedom.

Sometimes we move away pursuing our own goals... and there is little time for friends. We don’t happen to meet for years. But the in some corner of mind the friendship remains and when we meet again we r able to move ahead from the point where we parted as if nothing happened. I believe it is this distance that sometimes keeps friendship alive...